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WEEKEND WISDOM<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Want to make a good impression on a first date? There are steps you can take to prepare for your date and improve your chances of making a good impression. Sanjana Gupta has 50 first date questions that could help you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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MAKE IT OPEN: <\/strong>Open-ended questions invite people to talk about their feelings and share more information about themselves.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

By Sanjana Gupta<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Going on a first date can be equal parts exciting and nerve-wracking. You may wonder how to introduce yourself, what questions to ask, and how to keep the conversation going. If you\u2019re in this situation, you\u2019re not alone. \u201cIt\u2019s completely normal to be nervous for a first date,\u201d says Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD, a clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, there are steps you can take to prepare for your date and improve your chances of making a good impression. Keeping a list of questions handy can help you get to know your date and have an engaging conversation with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In this article, we suggest some tips for making conversation on a first date as well as some questions that may come in handy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tips for Making Conversation on a First Date<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Romanoff shares some tips that can help you prepare for a first date:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep a list of potential conversation topics: <\/strong>If you tend to feel nervous or anxious, it can be helpful to keep a list of potential conversation topics on your phone. The list could include questions to ask as well as funny anecdotes you can talk about. Knowing you have this list in case you get nervous and freeze up can help you relax on the date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask open-ended questions: <\/strong>Open-ended questions invite people to talk about their feelings and share more information about themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Listen actively:<\/strong> Actively listen to what your date is saying. Ask follow-up questions to show them you\u2019re interested. For example, if you ask them which magic power they want and they respond, you can ask them why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avoid conducting it like an interrogation:<\/strong> No one wants to feel like they\u2019re being interviewed or sized up while they\u2019re on a date. Avoid focusing on your date\u2019s resume or the list of schools they\u2019ve been to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Focus on genuinely getting to know the person:<\/strong> The best way to get to know someone in a genuine way is to learn about the details of their life and what gets them excited. For example, you can ask about their morning routine, their favorite dessert, or how they spend their Sundays.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Look for common ground:<\/strong> Try to build a bond with the person by looking for things you have in common and creating shared experiences in the conversation. The best conversations involve talking about the things that enliven you both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep your expectations realistic: <\/strong>Some people are so focused on finding a life partner that they place unrealistic pressure on the first date by forcing a stranger into an imaginary archetype of their life partner. This puts way too much pressure on the date and can quash all spontaneity and fun. Instead, lower your expectations for the first meeting to simply determine whether you want to spend more time with this person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t feel pressured to prove your worth:<\/strong> It\u2019s common for people to feel pressure to prove their value or worth to the other person on a first date. This skews the power dynamic and puts you at a disadvantage. Instead, a helpful phrase to remember is \u201cYou\u2019re buying, not selling.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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CHECKING: <\/strong>No one wants to feel like they\u2019re being interviewed or sized up while they\u2019re on a date. Avoid focusing on your date\u2019s resume or the list of schools they\u2019ve been to.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

50 First Date Questions<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are some questions you can ask on a first date, to keep the conversation engaging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Casual and Light-Hearted Questions<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are some casual and light-hearted questions that can help you get to know your<\/p>\n\n\n\n

date:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. What\u2019s your favorite meal?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. What does your ideal weekend look like?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. What\u2019s the most fun thing you\u2019ve done recently?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. What\u2019s your favorite way to unwind after a long day?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Who\u2019s your celebrity crush?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. What was your dream job when you were a kid?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. What kind of music do you like?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. What\u2019s your favorite book\/movie\/show\/podcast?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Do you prefer the outdoors or indoors?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. What\u2019s the best trip you\u2019ve ever taken?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. What\u2019s the most bizarre dream you\u2019ve ever had?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. What\u2019s one thing you can\u2019t leave home without?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Which is your favorite place in the world?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. What\u2019s the most embarrassing nickname you\u2019ve ever had?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. What\u2019s the most adventurous thing you would like to do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. What\u2019s the most hilarious thing that\u2019s ever happened to you on vacation?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. What\u2019s your hidden talent?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. What’s the weirdest food combination you’ve ever tried that turned out to be surprisingly great?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. Do you have a favorite word that you think is just delightful to say or hear?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. What\u2019s the most surprising fact you know that always blows people\u2019s minds?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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MORE TIME?: <\/strong>Lower your expectations for the first meeting to simply determine whether you want to spend more time with this person.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Deep and Meaningful Questions<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are some meaningful questions that can help you connect with the person on a deeper level:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. What\u2019s your best quality?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. What\u2019s your worst quality?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. What does \u201chome\u201d mean to you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. What\u2019s your favorite childhood memory?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Who are your role models?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. What is your relationship with your family like?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. What is your idea of happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Where do you see yourself five years from now?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. What goal are you working toward right now?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. What\u2019s the biggest challenge you\u2019re facing right now?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. What does retirement look like to you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. What\u2019s a skill or quality you would like to develop in yourself?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Have you ever experienced a life-altering moment that changed your perspective?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. What do you consider your biggest accomplishment so far?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. What\u2019s the most difficult thing you\u2019ve ever been through?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. How do you cope when you\u2019re upset or stressed out?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. What are you most grateful for?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. What\u2019s the best piece of advice you\u2019ve ever received?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. What\u2019s your worst habit?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Questions for Navigating Awkward Silences<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If there\u2019s a lull in the conversation, you can ask your date a hypothetical question to spark the conversation and reengage them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are some questions that can help you fill an awkward silence:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. If you could have any superpower, what would you pick?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. If you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would you go?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. If you could switch lives with someone for a day, who would it be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. If you had three wishes, what would you ask for?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. If you could go back in time and witness a historical event, which one would you choose?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. If you could have dinner with anyone (living or dead), who would you pick?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. If you could invent one thing right now, what would it be?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. If you could befriend any animal, which would it be?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Which movie best represents your life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Which actor would you pick to play you in a sitcom about your life?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Summary<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

First dates can sometimes be awkward, particularly if there are large gaps in the conversation. Having a list of engaging questions can help you break the ice, get to know your date, and create a connection with them. Practice asking open-ended questions that start with “who,” “what,” “when,” or “how” instead of binary questions that lead to a yes or no answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember to breathe, lead with curiosity, and thoughtfully answer any questions asked of you. Take your time getting to know this new person and then consider how you feel and whether or not you’d like to spend more time with them after them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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